60"s blogging No. 1
I started blogging in 2008 for a little known website and after reading the 60 website within Facebook I decided to try again with some new work and also give a few blogs from those years ago another airing
I saw this week that I am one of many who have grown children who don't speak to their parent/s - I am one of those. Neither of my children have spoken to me for 9 years and its cruel, sad and daunting
My son and daughter both have busy and fulfilling lives (of which I am extremely proud) but they didn't even tell me that my son got married and that he and his wife have a baby son. This was especially hurtful and I am still not completely over the crying and general sadness of this
My children are both very high achievers in their respective fields of endeavour and for this I know my upbringing was responsible (I did do some things well and right) anyhow that's what I feel but being a single parent for most of their upbringing I did not know if I was doing anything right at all. Both children went to daycare whilst I had a busy job/s so I feel guilty that my nurturing was haphazard and possibly not as much time wise as it probably should have been
All I need to know is how they are where they are in life's journey and happy. This doesn't seem too much to ask but I cannot contact either of them and sometimes I get snippets of information through old friends who know them but its only small and not significant at all. I worked my butt off during their childhood and spent many long hours endeavouring to feed and clothe them both. They are 8 years apart so it was 3 tv's in the house and different schools for both of them so I ran around like a stunned mullet most of the time tired and hectic being the norm
The ex husband gave them anything and everything they wanted (not needed, that was my job) but it was often kept at his house so it didn't get to come back with them this I feel now was incredibly cruel and gave them a feeling of a chasm between the households which was definitely not nurturing behaviour
I feel disregarded and useless about the entire situation as I am sure most of you in the same boat feel it is unfair and certainly down right cruel - I feel for you and hope that at some stage the rift might be broken for at least some of us
I emailed my daughter (who is about to turn 42 this year) at her work and she said in a return email 3 weeks later we would liaise this next year (that was before Christmas last year) so here's hoping I get to see her in 2019
Love never stops but sometimes it comes to a screeching halt when you least expect it and not knowing how your children are (no matter the reason for the rift) try and build a bridge to mend the broken fence.
Robyn Berry-Luke
15 January 2019
I started blogging in 2008 for a little known website and after reading the 60 website within Facebook I decided to try again with some new work and also give a few blogs from those years ago another airing
I saw this week that I am one of many who have grown children who don't speak to their parent/s - I am one of those. Neither of my children have spoken to me for 9 years and its cruel, sad and daunting
My son and daughter both have busy and fulfilling lives (of which I am extremely proud) but they didn't even tell me that my son got married and that he and his wife have a baby son. This was especially hurtful and I am still not completely over the crying and general sadness of this
My children are both very high achievers in their respective fields of endeavour and for this I know my upbringing was responsible (I did do some things well and right) anyhow that's what I feel but being a single parent for most of their upbringing I did not know if I was doing anything right at all. Both children went to daycare whilst I had a busy job/s so I feel guilty that my nurturing was haphazard and possibly not as much time wise as it probably should have been
All I need to know is how they are where they are in life's journey and happy. This doesn't seem too much to ask but I cannot contact either of them and sometimes I get snippets of information through old friends who know them but its only small and not significant at all. I worked my butt off during their childhood and spent many long hours endeavouring to feed and clothe them both. They are 8 years apart so it was 3 tv's in the house and different schools for both of them so I ran around like a stunned mullet most of the time tired and hectic being the norm
The ex husband gave them anything and everything they wanted (not needed, that was my job) but it was often kept at his house so it didn't get to come back with them this I feel now was incredibly cruel and gave them a feeling of a chasm between the households which was definitely not nurturing behaviour
I feel disregarded and useless about the entire situation as I am sure most of you in the same boat feel it is unfair and certainly down right cruel - I feel for you and hope that at some stage the rift might be broken for at least some of us
I emailed my daughter (who is about to turn 42 this year) at her work and she said in a return email 3 weeks later we would liaise this next year (that was before Christmas last year) so here's hoping I get to see her in 2019
Love never stops but sometimes it comes to a screeching halt when you least expect it and not knowing how your children are (no matter the reason for the rift) try and build a bridge to mend the broken fence.
Robyn Berry-Luke
15 January 2019
